What Love!

The love of God.

This subject is one that has been saturating my thoughts lately! How could someone SO good, someone so unbelievably perfect have  seen fit to sacrifice His heavenly position at the right hand of the Father, His dignity as the Son of the Almighty God by allowing mere people to scorn and mock His true identity, His innocent blood, and His last breath…for someone like ME??? Who am I that He, GOD incarnate, could love me so endlessly to have died for my every fault and failure?

In Ephesians 1:4-5, we see why: Even before He made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in His eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

Before there was an earth. Before there was an Eden. Before we were conceived…God LOVED us! He CHOSE us! Look at your child. That child was made in YOUR image. She has your smile and her father’s red hair! Before you met her, you LOVED her and were determined to do everything in your power to meet her every need, protect her, and celebrate her milestones. You resolved to guide her when she fails, help her when she falls, and hold her when she hurts!

If we feel this way about our kids, how much more would our Creator feel this way about us?!? If we, as self-serving human beings, desire ONLY the best things in life for the temporary gifts, that are our children, how incredibly unshakable is The Father’s love for us, His beloved?

Not only does He love us in a way that outshines the love of natural parents, He loves us with a fierce jealousy, as a husband would for the intimate affection of his bride! He views her with eyes that only see her perfections. The stars in His eyes when she is near would light the darkest of midnights! He thinks about her constantly, and he aches for her when they are apart! He loves her! He is devoted and committed to HER. He has sworn to spend his entire life loving, protecting, and nurturing that promise. It isn’t a heavy burden, loving her. She is his heart and his life. He can’t bear the thought of living without her. She makes the earth rotate, and the sun rise each morning! The thought of her dividing her attention between him and another, makes him feel ill. Sick to his stomach. And ANGRY! The hole in his heart when she no longer has eyes ONLY for him, is wide enough and deep enough to swallow the whole of Niagra Falls! How COULD she desert him like this?! His angel. His only love. The one His soul longs for.

Imagine that feeling!!

If you have ever faced the pain and physical ailments that accompany an unfaithful spouse, or have been the one to inflict such pain (in my case), you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about! There isn’t a feeling to compare with that misery. There aren’t words to describe that volume of anguish.

THAT is the way our Abba, God Almighty feels when we choose the fleeting pleasure of this world over the limitlessness of His love and mercy. Every time we step through the door of sin, we slam it in His face, leaving a hole and a pain that can only be remedied by our undivided devotion to the One who thought eternity without us was so unbearable, that He gave up His only child ,to be slaughtered, to prove how precious we are to Him! We crucify Jesus over and over again, every time we decide to step outside of the protective umbrella of God’s will! He must relive the pain of His Son’s death with each sin we indulge in. He knew that this was THE only way to reconcile our wickedness unto His holiness. He was willing, IS willing, to endure this to HAVE us! To keep us! We are not worthy of such love. And yet He thinks we are WORTH IT!

What LOVE the Father has lavished on us!! WOW! It is almost too much to wrap my finite mind around sometimes! How deep, how wide, how long, how high is You love for us, Oh God!

My prayer, for you, dear one, is that you’ll reflect on the enormity of His passion for you. You were on His mind before He laid the foundations of the galaxies. YOU were the twinkle in His eyes when He dreamed up the stars. You, most precious of creations, were the warmth in His breath as He blew the first summer breezes over the earth!

Mugcake Madness

I have been absolutely obsessed with mugcakes for about a month now. I cant help it! Being both delicious AND nutritious, they have become a staple in my journey to health. Mugcakes are, in my opinion, perfect!

The filling cake base of oats, banana, and protein is satisfying and healthful. The things you add to that make them a sweet-tooth quenching mouthparty! You can keep them completely clean or dirty them up with more naughty add-ins. They are a balanced breakfast or a divine dessert.


I’ve decided to share my 2 favorite creations,recipe included, as of late.


BEHOLD!!! The Coconut Dream Mugcake!! Garnished with toasted coconut and fresh, sweet banana, this little beaut is great if you’re craving something without an overbearing sweetness.


In a food processor, blend well

1/4c, 1/2 banana, 1packet stevia, 1 egg, 1tsp baking powder, 1/4tsp salt, 1/2 scoop vanilla protein powder, 1Tbs unsweetened shredded coconut, 1Tbs flax meal (optional), and 5 drops of vanilla creme stevia drops OR 1/2tsp vanilla extract.

Spray a large mug with nonstick cooking spray and microwave mixture for about 1min 40sec.

Tap the sides of the mug to loosen the cake and turn it out onto a plate.

Coconut or vanilla greek yogurt, sliced banana and toasted coconut.


Holy Molten Mouthparty, Batman!!   A warm, melty, chocolaty, explosion of heaven in your mouth! My (slightly naughty) Chocolava Mugcake is sure to satisfy any chocolate lover’s itch for that dark, rich sweetness! Marry it with fresh berries for a sweet tang that’ll have your taste buds giddy with delight!


In a food processor, blend well

1/4c oats, 1/2 banana, 1egg, 1/2 scoop chocolate protein powder, 1tsp baking powder, 1/4tsp salt, 1 packet stevia, 10 drops vanilla creme stevia, and 1Tbs or less unsweetened cocoa powder

Pour half of the mixture into a tall-ish mug

Now…for the ooey, gooey goodness in the middle:

In a separate bowl

Mix 1Tbs almond (or peanut) butter, 5 drops vanilla creme stevia, 1tsp cocoa powder, 1tsp chocolate protein powder and few dark chocolate chips. This mixture will be dry so once it’s well mixed, roll it into a ball and place it in the mug. Add the remaining portion of the batter to the mug and microwave for 2minutes.

Add about a Tbs dark chocolate chips to a microwave safe bowl with about a tsp of water. Once the cake has “dinged”, remove it and let the mug cool while you melt these bad boys!! (should take about 30sec)

Tap sides of mug to loosen the cake and turn it out onto a plate. Pour melted chocolate over the cake and garnish with fresh berries


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“Sisterly Love”

This afternoon, I was privileged  to spend some quality time with a woman I attend church with. This was only the second occasion I had actually followed through on an attempt to bond with a lady, outside of the church walls, since I lost my best friend, of her own choice.

You see, 3 years ago, I made a very stupid decision. I separated from my husband and decided to pursue love elsewhere, while still married. After I realized how wrong I had been, I returned home and marital healing began. The restoration is ongoing, but my beloved and I have grown in the Lord tremendously since that event. We have matured and bonded in ways I never knew was possible within a marriage.

Anyway, during this trial, I expected my very closest friend of 5 years, and godmother to my 3 children, to help me overcome my selfishness toward my husband. I needed her to lift me up in prayer and encourage me in God’s truths. However, I met a harsh response when she said my friendship was no longer beneficial to her and that she would no longer continue to be a part my life. I was crushed! This woman, to whom I’d poured myself out in many ways…This person, with whom I cried and trusted God to help her conceive a baby…and He did…thought I was no longer worth her time or effort as a friend? It shattered me. It devastated me and I withdrew from friendship. I closed that part of myself off because I never wanted to feel a pain like that again!

I have always believed that when a sister or brother in Christ is in bondage or struggling, it was the job of the body to lift them up, correct them if necessary and help restore them to their proper place before God! I never thought that, that was the time to turn away and hightail it to a more accommodating climate! That’s just me though…

Anyway, I said all that to say this. There is real healing in the fellowship of believers! I laid myself bare today. I opened up my pages and read my dark, self-destructive story to this woman today. And she did the same! We spilled ourselves (in between pauses of parenting) over coffee. I have been a druggie, an heavy drinker, a porn/sex addict, a sexually abused, suicidal basketcase of fear and self hatred, and an adulteress, and a victim of domestic violence. As it turns out, we share a lot of the same life experiences!

Through all of this, we didn’t see someone who deserved to be abandoned and forsaken simply because of the terrible decisions made on their part. We did not see value according to what that person could offer us, or how they could benefit us. We simply saw…the Grace and Mercy of our Magnificent Heavenly Father. We saw healing, restoration, wholeness, and supernatural provisions! We saw a sister! We saw family!

I am so SO thankful to belong to a body of believers where I feel it is 100% safe to be EXACTLY who God created me to be! I do not feel a need to “fit in” or put on a mask of false joy!


This family I have found is the kind that will drop everything to pray with you when you’re less than yourself. They go out of their way to bless and help you! They are aware that you will struggle and sin, and they don’t condemn you for it! They pick you up, dust you off, and say, “I’ll carry you if you feel you can’t walk on your own.” These are REAL people! Transparent people! Each a hand, an arm, and the heart of a living God!

Long time no see!

I have been out of the blogasphere for far too long and thought it was time to rekindle my love for writing, even if I’m the only reader I reach. So, here I am. I have returned to spill my guts over faith, family, freedom, fitness, and food.

So many things have changed in my life since the last time I made an entry.

It is my prayer that whoever finds their way to my little space, will leave encouraged and inspired.

<3 Cay

NBC’s Disappearing Speech Trick. (RANT)

We all know that hypocracy and dishonesty is nothing new. Especially in the media. What IS new is this video, exposed by theblaze.com and Rush Limbaugh, of how blantant mainstream media is about smearing people that lean more to the right side of the ailse. This also shows how stupid those media outlets believe the American public is.

This woman, I use the term loosely, acts as if Mitt Romney’s WaWa experience makes him “alien” to normal shopping  trips. I’m sure she wouldn’t know anything about a wealthy person’s daily life, being ALAN GREENSPAN’S wife and all….  ((For those of you that don’t know, Alan Greenspan is an economist and former Chairman of the Federal Reserve of the U.S. from 1987 to 2006. He is now a private adviser and consultant for firms through his personal company. His net worth is about 10 million dollars))

Look, I don’t CARE if you are rich! I don’t care if you spend YOUR money on whatever you want, as long as it doesn’t harm people or our freedom! I DO NOT CAREEEE! Mitt Romney has money. YEAH…SO?!?  He worked for it too!  Andrea Mitchell, aka Mrs. Greenspan, married into money.

Granted, I have some sharp objections to Mitt Romney, but I will still choose him over Barack Hussein Obama ANY DAY OF THE WEEK! (I didn’t get Rick Santorum, so I’ll settle for Mittens.)

Sorry, I’m ranting, back to the point at hand! Andrea Mitchell’s snotty comments on Mitt Romney suggests that he’s “too rich” to visit a regular Joe type of store. And you know, he might be!  And I have NO problem with that. The problem I find with this is, 1st, she’s a loaded broad herself and has probably never been to such a store. Secondly, the material EDITED out of this clip is CRUCIAL for context! The clip was cut from 3 minutes and 28 seconds to a mere 49 seconds to make it appropriate for NBC’s agenda bias “news” (I use this term loosely too) broadcast.

Mitt Romney mentioned his WaWa trip for a very good and relevant reason. He was drawing a comparison between  the private sector and the public sector.  Take a look at this….

Can you see WHY they took all of that wonderful info out? Can you SEE that, just how they did to George Zimmerman, the truly VALUABLE parts are cut out to make a nice, neatly packaged liberally bias report, yet another word I use loosely in this post.

With George Zimmerman, their editing skills put a man’s life on the line.

With Mitt Romney, they are putting our entire country on the line.


“Marble-ous” Manners! A Mom-ism.

All kids have issues with manners at some point or another. And changing these issues, for the betterment of our kids, depends uopn YOUR proactive decisions as the parent.

You can choose to ignore the undesirable behavior and hope they “grow out of it”. (The problem with this: No correction means no growth. They’ll remain children FOREVER!) You can scold, revoke privileges or even administer corporal punishment. I, personally, like to be a little more creative in my choice of character refinement tactics.

Enter the “Manners Marbles”.  

Here’s how it works.

Go to the Dollar Tree and gather one plastic jar or bottle per child. (we chose these colorful water bottles minus lids)


a sharpie to write the kiddos’ names on their jar/bottle and a sack of those common glass pebbles.

My son has nicknamed these “The Marbles of Death”!

Choose which manners you wish to improve.  (We are currently working on polishing our table manners.) Then decide upon a starting point.

Example: Since we are attacking bad table manner, for each inappropriate action, the child places a marble in their jar. When 5 marbles are collected, they lose their dessert. We no longer use “Eat your dinner or you don’t get dessert” as motivation for the sweet treat. That never worked anyway and, even as a parent, you can’t tell when your child is full. So, it seems unreasonable to make them clean their plate just to eat MORE. This appears to encourage over eating and that’s a struggle I am all too familiar with. I DO NOT wish to pass that destructive habit on to my children. 

Only ONE of my 3 kids was rewarded with dessert this evening. My oldest and youngest were not happy and thought it unfair, but this was also a prime teachable moment.

“Mom, it’s not fair if Wibby gets a treat and we don’t.” 

“C.J., It’s important for you to learn that the choices that you make will have an effect on the rest of your life. You chose not to watch your manners closely enough to get 5 marbles. So, now, I’m sorry, but you have also made the decision to not receive dessert.”

“Ok, Mom. I’ll do better tomorrow.”

“That’s a good choice, Buddy!”      <—- This! This is WHY we do what we do. It’s not always pleasant. It will make them cry, but it’s better they learn these lessons from people that love and protect them than from the harsher, more callus world outside.

Although, Miss Olivia, being the only one eating dessert, did find her brownie EXTRA tasty tonight. Haha.

Free Learning Produces Free Thinking.

As a product of the public “educational” system, I have a full 12 years of experiences to draw from on this matter.

I did my time in the the pen and have been convinced that there is a better way to saturate my little sponges with the RIGHT kind of knowledge.

They sleep as late as they need to, ensuring that they are well rested. They learn when and what they want to, guaranteeing that they will enjoy what they absorb. They are free to ask anything they like and are confident I will answer to the very best of my own abilities.

For instance, “Mom, why did God make bugs?”   Answer: “Well, to feed other living things, like birds, frogs, lizards,  bats, spiders, snakes and venus fly traps. And He also made them for His own glory.”


There is no place, anymore, for God in the public school system. There is no creation theory. There is not even a pledge of alligiance in most schools. So, questions like these, are treasures. They GET IT! They know that there is a divine Creator. They understand that things so complex must have a designer.  At home, we CAN read “Alice in Bibleland” stories together and then discuss why Joseph’s brothers were so jealous that they hurt someone they were supposed to love and protect. And that will spin off into a conversation about how we treat our family and friends.

We take long walks down nature trails. This prompts more questions, more answers and more conversation. Entomology, botany, and weather are usual topics during our hikes togther. We DO. We PLAY. We EXPERIENCE . We GROW. We LEARN together. All day. Everyday!

I remember lunch times during middle school. I learned a lot about disrepecting those in authority and human reproductive practices from other children my age! In our homeschool setting, though, meal preparation becomes math when we measure, add or cut sandwiches to discuss fractions. This, often, becomes a lesson on table manners and respect for others, as well.

My children are free! They are free from unreasonable amounts of homework. They are free from bullying and negative influences from their peers. They are free from government mandates on their education and propaganda. Free from the disgusting sexuality that’s forced on children, as young as 5, these days.

They are free to pray, free to worship, and free to read their Bible at ANY time they choose. We teach them the sovereignty of our great nation. They learn history. Real, hearty history. We are an unfettered bunch of goof-offs that love life and learning is just a means to instill a greater love for life and God.

We have rights, as God’s children. We have to protect those unalienable rights, no matter the cost!